Gearld Gunder

Born, September 20,1981~heaven Bound, February 27, 2003 .

 

Gearld Gunder was born September 20, 1981, and died February 27, 2003 .
I am sending a picture of  him that I love.
Writing this  is going to rough for me  but I want his picture and story to be seen and read by other Meningitis Angles.
My name is Doris Hall, Gearld's mom. His dad is, Bruce Gunder .
Gearld has two bothers name, Bruce Wayne Gunder the Second, who is 26 and Christopher Gunder, who is 24. He has a  sister in law, Sarah and two nephews, Cody, 6 and Nathan, 1 .
Here is his story
Gearld was born healthy child . At two months old he became ill with a high fever
I tried to get it to go down but I couldn't.  I took him to the emergency room at the hospital.  When we arrived, they packed him in ice and eventually his fever went down. The ER doctor gave me some medicine and sent him home. We were not home more than an hour before his temp went back up real high and he was crying severely At this point he couldn't move his neck that really scared me. I took him back to the emergency room. Once again  they packed him in ice and admitted him to the hospital .
They couldn't keep his fever down. I asked what was wrong with my son and the doctor said he didn't know. They ran some test on him and by that time his was having seizures so bad. I begged the doctor to please help my son.
The doctor said he didn't know what my son had and several other doctors saw him and couldn't figure out what was wrong either.
I was one, scared mom. The doctors said, they had never seen anything like it and didn't know how to treat him . They called around to other hospitals to see what they could find out. Finally, a little girl was brought in to another hospital with the same symptoms, Gearld had.  Her doctor gave Gearld's doctor a diagnosis of meningitis and information on how to treat it.
They put Gearld in  isolation and me and both his bothers until they could determine what kind of meningitis they were dealing with.
By this time my son was getting worse.  I thought I was going to loose him.  I begged for them to please help him.  I was becoming really angry with the doctors because I couldn't believe that they didn't know what he had and how to treat him and had allowed him to become much worse before they did something.
We required us all to have a spinal tap. The neurosurgeon came in and told me, Gearld
had spinal meningitis and we weren't contagious.  They took us out of isolation.

The neurosurgeon said, Gearld had fluid on his brain and they were going to have to put a shunt in his brain  to drain the fluid off . This would enable them to see any damage the fever might have caused to his brain.  was scared.  He told me, they would do every thing they could for him.
They took him to surgery and they  about lost him twice.
I  was praying so hard and crying.  They put him in intensive care after surgery and I almost lost him again.
Again they wanted to know if I would sign a paper allowing them not resuscitate him. 
I told them, I could not  make that decision.  I said, I have faith in God that He will pull
my son through this terrible ordeal and He did.

Gearld lost most of his brain, was blinded and severely handicapped form the meningitis. He remained in the  hospital for three long months before he was released to go home .
After that, Gearld  never walked. He was in a wheel chair all his life.
He  was in out of the hospital more times  than I can count. He had a endo-tube put in his stomach so they could feed him. He had trache tube put in his throat .
All together he had three shunts put in his brain  because the one before would quit working.  

I made his live as comfortable as possible.  He was a very special and loving child.
Thorough the years I had to put him in a nursing home because of my own health and not being able to care for him. We saw  him everyday. We loved him very much.

Finally the day came. The  nursing home asked me if I wanted to sign the do
not resuscitate paper ? I made the decision to sign it.
I couldn't put my son through anymore.  I thought he had enough surgeries and things to last him a life  time. I couldn't put him through anymore.  I signed the DNR orders, which now, I think I am a bad mom for doing but I was thinking of Gerald only and looking out for him. I had to do what I thought was right for him.

At the end he became really sick and could not breath. This went on for a week before he died. We spent all day and night at the hospital until he passed away. It was the hardest thing we ever went through in our entire lives. I am glad we were with him when he died. 

He had a beautiful funeral and we keep him close in our hearts all the time .
We love him and thank God, He is looking after him now. 
The song  the Minster played at his
funeral, was called Heaven Bound.  My nieces sang it.
We loved that song and still do.
Finally, Gearld can walk and play with other kids and see again. 
He was a very special little boy and we miss him dearly.
There is not a day that goes by, we don't  think of him and cry .
He was the joy in all of us and when you read Gearld's story you will see why he was.
Thank you for wanting to add this story and Gearld's  picture with
other Meningitis Angles.  We appreciate it very much and
for all the help and support you will, I hope give us to get through this loss.
God Bless You All,  Doris Hall, Gearld's Mom.

 

If You Could See Me Now

Our prayers have all been answered
I finally arrived.
The healing that had been delayed
Has now been realized.
No one's in a hurry, there's no schedule to keep
We're all enjoying Jesus, just sitting at His feet.

If you could see me now
I'm walking on streets of gold.
If you could see me now
I'm standing tall and whole.
If you could see me now
You'd know I'd seen His face.
If you could see me now
You'd know the pain's erased.

You wouldn't want me to ever leave this place.
If you could see me now
My light and temporary trials
Have worked out for my good.
To know it brought Him glory
When I misunderstood.
Though we've had our sorrows
They can never compare
What Jesus has in store for us,
No language can share.
 

 

The song on this page is called "Rise Again"

Little precious man you have rose again. Be Free in God's Love.


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Messages to Gerald and Family

Dear Dolores,
I just read your precious son, Gearld's, story.  My heart aches for you as I do understand the pain of losing a child.  I have to say that I don't know what you had to go through all those years taking such great care of your son.  I want to say, though, Dolores, do not feel like a bad mother for signing the DNR papers.  You were a wonderful loving mother.  But like the song says...if you could see him now...you would be dancing for joy that he is whole and rejoicing!  It is harder to set things free sometimes, than to hold on to them.  Take heart..you will be with him one sweet day! 
With Hope In Him,
Debbie Jerdo,
Mother of Heaven Bound Lindsay
12/16/83-12/24/01